It is pride that refuses the presence of humility which would allow for remorse.

Let’s look at regret. There are times when the regret is only rectified through the means of say, the other. Instead of the regretful smoothing things over, the other person may say, this wrong cannot be rectified, and there is no way to make amends, the choice then of course being to part company of one another. Now pay attention here, for this means, can either bring about feelings of remorse in the regretful, consequently facing the very fear of suffering in the truth, and accepting the loss caused by their actions, or the regret will deepen into the bitterness of not being able to stave off the facing of truth, and the anger of not saving face, and remaining illusory in the status quo of that particular relationship. “What next?”, maybe you are asking. Ego, logic, and reason will raise its ugly head and remind the regretful that it’s all the fault of the other, because they quote, “Don’t understand, they weren’t listening”, or they, the other is “cold-hearted.” This false sense of truth is kept alive with pride. It’s this very thing, pride, that refuses the presence of humility which would allow for remorse, and a possible change in attitude. Do you see? Now, mind you these are mere examples. Mere examples of common ways of being in the human way of existence. Not all situations occur in these exact ways, however a great many do.

Let’s try to take this to a more personal level. Look at yourself, as I say this, I am certain that there is an immediate cowering of self-recognition, recognition, that is, to remember. Two things, one being, at the core of my being I am not all these games I play with myself and others in order to deflect my shortcoming. Two, the many regrets that I have are constantly being fed by my fear of being caught, and weighing me down in a mire of endless guilt, causing immense suffering to those around me, and most of all to myself.

A question, who is it that we fear being caught by? Out of everyone we can think of the ultimate one we fear is the light of the One Truth that is buried deep within us. We fear turning within and facing our ego-based self in the reflection of the mirror of Truth, God The Mother. God The Mother, She is not forgiving or unforgiving. There is no judgment in God The Mother. It is we who are unforgiving and judgmental. It is we who will forgive either in complete unabated surrender, or with conditions. The latter, of course leading back to the beginning regret and untruth, and the former, releasing our own selves from guilt, and facing the cause and accepting the effects. In our self-reflection right now we can and should ask the questions. What is the oldest unresolved regret I can remember that I am still carrying inside of me to this day? How have I reasoned with myself in order to exist and survive in my regret? Does my fear of suffering include retribution from another? In my fear of suffering, if I am honest with myself, I have to say I fear what more, facing my guilt, or facing the other and having them know the truth, not knowing how they will act? What ways of life have I adapted to in order to ease my conscience? Can you see a pattern of adopted behaviors stemming from early regrets in life that make it difficult for you to feel remorse for your own self? Is there a desire to remain in denial or ignorance because of the fear?

Namaste’

What do you do with regret?

What about in our immediate relationships, when we do or say something and it’s followed by regret. What is the regret? Most of the time it’s a fear-based inner thought or regret that prompts the doing or the saying of something so that suffering will be minimized. Not necessarily the suffering of the other, but our own suffering. Suffering, in that the act will be pointed out and we may have to relive the regretted moment, and look at the one that we caused pain to. This may include tears and words to come from the other, and we do not want to experience it, or at least to minimize the possible outcome, so we’ll do all sorts of things. The point being, that we fear our own suffering because of the thought that we projected outward into an action. We fear our own suffering. We are unwilling to take the consequence of our actions entirely. So, we will attempt to manipulate the truth. We lie, we insert logic and reason, we will purposely leave out key points, and this often is followed by the doing of something for the other that we otherwise really wouldn’t do, or haven’t ever done, or only do in situations like this. Perhaps we will buy flowers, or take them out to their favorite place, cook them their favorite meal, a candlelit dinner, trying all the while to win their favor in hopes that we will not have to reveal the truth. We have regret, we have guilt.

All these things that we are doing, we do in hopes of lessening the blow of the lingering truth. This truth is one of which only we know. Now, let me take you a little deeper for a moment. Because, at that point we even feel that we have an advantage, because only we know and we regret. We regret because it’s causing us pain. Do you follow what I’m saying to you?

If you’ll pay attention and notice I have not stated remorse here. For to speak of remorse, we would paint the picture of this scenario quite differently. Remorse itself would lend to the truth straight away, pay the piper. Then perhaps some, or one of the above acts, or attempting to act properly, attempting to soften, may be applied, providing it were not a part of a ploy.

Namaste’

Do you know the difference between regret and remorse?

Through a better understanding of regret then one is able, if willing, to relate to karma, which is simply cause and effect. The path of unfulfilled desire is the reason for the cycle of death and rebirth.

If we have no expectation we have no regret. Without regrets we have no guilt. Without the guilt we are better able to accept the responsibility for our own life process. I believe this can only be done through Love, because through Love we are always willing to accept the Truth, we have nothing to fear. To regret is to be disappointed, which is often followed by or with lamenting. I would say that it somewhat lends to a type of sorrow, and is all too often not rectified by the one who has the regret.

Whereas, remorse is something that few people want to contend with. For remorse is what we might say a sort of self-reproach, or the taking of the blame, and the suffering of the consequence, knowing a wrong has been done, and that we are the cause.

Regret is another way of being, that has a great deal of fear in it, or it is fear based, the fear of suffering. People will immediately, out of regret, begin to do things to subdue or play down their regretful act. How do they do it? Sometimes they may fall into lying, or manipulation, otherwise covering up in an effort to move away from what it is they regret. The problem that most people don’t see with this, is that, they do not realize that the regret will stay with them always until rectified. That is, making the wrong right, in an essence, making amends. The wrong doing, that is the regretted act, cannot be changed to a right, but it must be neutralized or balanced with Truth. For as we know, Truth is the answer to every question in life. An example that comes to mind when I’m speaking to you about regret is one of when, let’s say, the military drops a bomb on the wrong place, and kills a lot of innocent people, there is regret. The regret is that they did not kill those for whom the bomb was intended. Now, because of this mishap, a series of lies, and covering up, and manipulations must occur, and this is always done with a logic and a reason. The covering will be to either hide the misfortune with talk of military strategy, or the manipulation will be done with spurts of logic and reason, such as, we thought we were on the target, or there’s been talk of covering weapons in that area too, so it was probably a good move on our part. All of this is usually followed by having someone to put the blame on so that there is a face to target the regretted act upon. Do you follow? Perhaps it’s too hideous of an example, but I feel that it is one that we can all understand.

Now, some kind of punishment must follow this targeting. This targeting gives the illusion of an apparent remorse, and it gives the masses a feeling of justice, you see. The masses of people need to know that a wrong has been made right, because they, the masses, place themselves and their families in political situations often, and they feel remorse, and that remorse must be appeased by the oppressors who exhibit regret. The appeasement is so easily accepted through the condemnation of one or two persons that are blamed. Does that make sense? Does that accepted appeasing by the condemnation of one or two make it all right? For many, the answer is “yes”. But Truth is the answer, so where is the right? I do not know if this example is serving you well, but perhaps it gives you an understanding of what is being spoken of about regret.

Namaste’